TT #3 - Thirteen Traits

So I recently put my ad on a single's site. So far it's been quite disappointing, though to be fair, I've only been on there a few days. I'm impatient like that. ;-)

When I say disappointing, I am referring to the conversations (or lack thereof) for the most part and just the types of responses I receive. One guy has no picture posted but asked for my e-mail to send them to me... then said, "if you like me, you can call me at work". What the Hell - you don't know me and you'd bloody give me your private info? That just screams desperate and mildly psycho to me. Another guy sends his introductory message to me saying, "do u like black guys?????????". Yes, he used that many question marks. I was going to respond and enlighten him to the fact that I see no colors in love or life, but that I did see stupid when people make assumptions (an ASS out of U and Me) about racial issues. I decided to just ignore him and carry on my marry, Mexican way. (*^_^*)

In creating my profile, it brought to light all of the traits I look for in a date/partner/future spouse (and love-slave). It's not that I am Hell-bent on the perfect man, but I've been burned and let down *so* many times that I know precisely what I need in my life. Most guys just don't seem to fit the shoes needing to be filled. Even sadder, my list isn't so far-fetched or unattainable that it is a decathalon just trying to be that *great* man.

Here I'll list 13 traits I seek in a guy (actually most of this carries on over into friendships, too):

1. Honesty - Be it brutal or subtle, I need someone who is honest with me at all times, not when it is convenient or suits them best.
2. Solid, open communication - If we can't talk about our problems, our successes, and so on, then we are simply acquaintances.
3. Sense of humor - Okay, I'm a big goober and a gigglebox. Me and Mr. Serious just won't work, LOL. Tried it before and it made me feel like doing something totally random and off the wall everytime a conversation was so serious... which was ALL the freaking time.
4. Ability to be serious when needed - see the post above. Just because I want someone funny, doesn't mean I should have to tell him when it is time to be serious.
5. Faithfulness - I can't even believe this has to be explained but some folks don't even understand this concept anymore. I believe in 2 people in a loving relationship... not 3 or 4 or whatever tickles your fancy during your "moment".
6. Strength - both physically and emotionally strong. I am extremely strong and independent, moreso because I've had to be. I've never had anyone to help support me in any way, even emotionally. I'm always the pillar, the solid foundation... and because no one is that strong spotter for me, when I fall - I fall hard. I want to know that someone has my back through it all and that if I feel weak or let down, I can be lifted back up and carried if needed.
7. Spiritual - I don't care what religion or belief set he holds, but I do need someone with a spiritual nature to them. Even an atheist/agnostic is alright, so long as they aren't doing it out of spite or constantly angry with religion.
8. Family man - Having two kids, this is a huge must. He has to love children and love them blindly and unconditionally. He has to always keep the family in mind when making decisions or choices. A good family man does whatever it takes to be there for his family.
9. Balanced - This one is a bit more general. I like a man who is balanced, not too dominant and not too submissive; not too funny to where he can't be taken seriously, nor too serious where there is no laughter; responsible, yet can let loose and have fun; and just overall comfortable with who they are and able to balance all of the positives and negatives in their lives.
10. Compassionate - not only towards me and my children, but towards everyone. Someone who isn't afraid to help someone out or rise to the occasion without being asked to assist.
11. Childlike - not childish. To be childlike, you must love unconditionally, easily forgive, be carefree and hopelessly happy, enjoy the little things in life, and get right up after you've falled down... over and over again.
12. Affectionate - I'm very touchy-feely so it is a requirement that I have someone who enjoys the same and reciprocates equally. This also carries over to the children - I worry about people who shy away from physically expressing their love for someone, especially children.
13. Passionate - This applies to all areas of life, not just in the bedroom. *smiles* I need someone who gives it their all, tries their best, and never lets go of their desires.

Do you know this guy? If so, send him my way... you may even get a finder's fee. *winks*